BREAKING UP

I think that if you are breaking up with someone because your interests have changed, you think in a very different way, you feel there are many blank spaces between the other person and you or you've grown apart, try and be considerate in ending the relationship. Think about how you would want the other person to act towards you in the same situation because It´s important not to hurt the other person.

I believe there are some good things we can do to break up someone:

·         Be honest, tell the person what has changed and why.

·         Be kind, (there is no need to be nasty - the person will feel hurt already) but not soft (don't get talked into going back with the person just to save his or her feelings).

·         Don't get into blaming each other.

·         Time it right, eg don't tell the person just when he or she is going through huge dramas such as exams or family problems.

·         Continue to treat the other person with respect even after the relationship ends - you may end up remaining friends.

·         Be prepared for the person to feel hurt, no matter how considerate you are, he or she will still feel hurt. You might feel sad that it's ended too.

WHAT SHOULD WE DO BEFORE START A RELATIONSHIP?

Before starting a relationship, it's important to have good self-esteem . Self-esteem means, love you, accept you the way you are, feeling good about yourself most of the time. If you don't feel good about yourself and look to another person to fill that space for you, it can cause a lot of problems.

It places a big weight on that person to always make you feel good and it can mean you come crashing down with the slightest rejection from that person and nobody has that responsibility.  It gives the other person a lot of power over you and leaves you with little power in the relationship because he or she controls everything. This can mean you do things to please that person that you wouldn't normally do, perhaps things that go against your personal values, thus decreasing your own self respect.

It is important to spend time learning to like yourself, to love you, to accept you before getting into a relationship with someone else.

When you learn how to love you, you are going to be able to love another person.

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